Anger creates resentment and rebellion.
Empathy ups the odds of genuine remorse and responsibility.
Anger says, "I can barely handle you!"
Empathy communicates, "I'm such a great parent that I can handle you without breaking a sweat!"
Anger creates kids who get sneaky and do irresponsible things behind our backs.
Empathy creates kids who are more likely to behave even when we aren't watching them.